Every so often, you come across something really…far out. Someone with opinions so crazy, it’s impossible not to laugh at them, and the temptation to unload a barrage of obliterating laser fire is strong. And I’m gonna go ahead and do it, because some impressionable young kid is gonna be reading this and thinking: “Wow, I never thought about it this way”. He won’t question it because his center of power is weak and he’s eager to become part of a community of nonthreatening feminine guys and morally questionable girls who he thinks might have sex with him (male feminists are motivated by fear and lust, I would know because I was one). I’m hoping he’ll read this, get pissed off at me, and eventually find his way to Mike Cernovich or Ivan Throne, or even Jesus Christ. In any case, all challengers are good challengers.
Today’s piece of soon-to-be-dissected meat is titled “How to survive in intersectional feminist spaces 101”. It’s a useful target because it’s intended as a sort of starter-guide for intersectional feminists. The title alone is a complete and disastrous non-starter, akin to a band starting a set with all instruments out of tune with each other (if you play in a band, do not do this). It’s just plain dysfunctional. If one has to be instructed on how to survive in your space, your space is NOT welcoming. This shows that intersectional feminists are simply not interested in recruiting well-adjusted, functional people to fight for their cause. Why would I want to become an intersectional feminist when:
- I’m not a racist, sexist, or homophobe, and therefore do not need to be told how to NOT be those things.
- I’m not a victim of anything whether you think I am or not, and therefore do not require the protection of their community.
- Becoming an intersectional feminist would mean subjecting myself to some ridiculous fraternity-style initiation ritual involving vast quantities of unprovoked abuse, to the point where it’s difficult to survive.
They’re just not making an effort to sell their movement here. And sell it they must, because intersectional feminists are ultimately doing all of this for their own benefit. If you say racism only affects non-whites, then you’re saying that eradicating racism has no benefit for whites. Therefore, the responsibility rests squarely on your shoulders to convince whites that you deserve their help. If a random guy on the street asked you for $200, would you give it to him? Heck no, you don’t know if he’d just spend it all on drugs or lottery tickets or some crap! Again, more evidence that Social Justice Warriors tend to have a limited understanding of real-world concepts such as value, power, and social interaction. I use the word “dysfunctional” with deliberate intent, not as a mere insult.
Certainly, Not All Intersectional Feminists applies here. And as such, all of you out there who support intersectional feminism and want it to survive and grow should join me in chastising this crazy individual who’s branding your movement as, essentially, a basket of deplorables, or at best a very elitist and demanding clique.
With that said, let us dive headlong into this forbidding mire of sinister thought, and see if we can’t gather some clues as to the true nature of our old enemy.
Hey, crew. If this isn’t your first exposure to intersectional feminism you might want to drive right on by here because this is gonna be long and basic. This is largely focused on white women, but I’m pretty sure everyone can figure out what I’m talking about. If you’re a person of color, and I say “white” think “able-bodied” or some other way in which a different community is marginalized in a way you’re not. There’s gonna be some swearing and a metric crapton of metaphors. We can get through this.
Metaphors are awesome, but why do feminists always have to swear to make their points? It’s like they’re trying to show how liberated they are by using language that sounds stupid coming out of a man’s mouth, to say nothing of a woman’s. Eww.
That’s lesson one for y’all, actually. You’re gonna get corrected. And you know what? It’s a compliment. People in activist spaces are fucking tired. All the time. Activism takes literal years off your life. Nobody who is tired wants to waste effort on people who aren’t worth it; they need to save that reserve for direct action. So if someone tells you what you just did was wrong, it’s because they genuinely believe you are a good person who would do the right thing if you knew what it was. It’s not because they hate you; it’s because they like you.
Highlighted is F-bomb #1, and completely gratuitous. This paragraph emanates hostility, we don’t have time for you. You aren’t worth it. Again, absolutely atrocious salesmanwomangorillaship, and if these people don’t have the energy to be nice to people who want to help them, they’re clearly wasting energy in YUGE ways. If you hate your job, it’s probably because you’re not getting anything done.
Second of all, I chose that statement for a reason, and it’s about to get real uncomfortable in here so let me reassure you FIRST that I love you and I think you’re a worthwhile person: white people are racist. They benefit from systemic racism whether or not they actively contribute to perpetuating it, and they perpetuate it in ways that are invisible to them because they’ve never had to think about it. That’s a thing you can learn about by not jumping in on that discussion and just sitting and listening for a minute.
Racism – a belief that race is the primary determinant of human traits and capacities and that racial differences produce an inherent superiority of a particular race (Merriam-Webster). According to this definition, “Benefiting from systemic racism” clearly does NOT make you racist. Social Justice Warriors have expanded the definition of “racism” to such an extreme degree that it no longer bears any resemblance to the dictionary definition. The fact that they still try to conflate this new “racism” with the old one regarding the consequences of allowing “racists” to operate unmolested (slavery, hate crimes, Nazism) shows that they have no respect for truth and are only trying to push their agenda.
Quick sidebar: In activist spaces, “doing a racist thing” does not automatically make you a bad person. “That’s racist” is not coded language for “you’re bad.” People understand that you’ve been conditioned and rewarded by society for doing that thing. What they need you to understand is that they expect you to work against that conditioning, which you literally cannot do until they show you the thing you’re doing and why it’s racist.
Racism – a belief that race is the primary determinant of human traits and capacities and that racial differences produce an inherent superiority of a particular race (Merriam-Webster). If racism is a belief, than actions cannot be “racist”! Actions don’t have beliefs! A shooting of a black man by a white man is not inherently racist; the racism resides strictly in the perpetrator of the crime and is contingent upon the crime being racially motivated. If the black guy was trying to shoot the white guy, suddenly it’s not so racist anymore, right? It’s very intellectually lazy to simply assume racism in any situation where race could be a potential motivator, to say nothing of situations when race is unlikely to be involved. For instance, if a comedian tells a joke at black people’s expense, he might be considered insensitive, but he’s most likely not a racist. Actual racists like Hitler are generally not very funny, or at least not intentionally funny.
You’re going to see some epic pile-ons at some point when someone has just made a fool of themselves in a very understandable way. Someone who reminds you of you. And you’re going to feel the urge to defend them, because holy fuck, what if you’re next? That could easily be you! Protip: don’t do that. Instead, send them a nice PM and say “hey I know what you were trying to say but you just showed your whole ass in there, so why don’t you take a short walk and I’ll drop a note on the thread saying hang on, we’re in a PM about this, it’s being handled. Then we can come back to this with less emotion.”
Gratuitous F-bomb #2 has emerged, and this paragraph essentially says “don’t defend innocent people from bullying”. No, third-wave feminists aren’t nice, and they hate nice guys (more on this later). Also, note the highlighted word emotion. This sentence implies that feminist spaces are rife with emotional conflict and drama, in other words dysfunctional. What rational person would want to deal with that?
Lesson five: Defer to people’s lived experience. You’re going to run into a lot of people with a whole lot different lives than you, whether that’s someone with a disability, someone who’s gender-nonconforming, someone whose sexuality or color or income is wildly different from you. You have no way of knowing what their life is like. Please, when they make a statement about something happening to them, or interpret an interaction as harmful or aggressive, please don’t make them prove that. They don’t have to justify their life to you. Their interpretation of their experiences is based on a lifetime of knowledge and interactions that you just Do. Not. Have. You know how some compliments feel like compliments and some feel like threats? It’s just like that. You know which ones are someone genuinely thinking your outfit looks great and which ones are someone who’s about to call you a fucking cunt if you don’t respond. Do others the favor of trusting them when they say they know what was going on. They were there; you weren’t. Don’t speculate about what the other person COULD have meant by “where you from? No, where you really from?” (Incidentally, that’s racist and don’t say it. Please. Hit me up if you need to know why.)
In other words, don’t question what we say because FEELINGS. Have you ever considered that for every pock who thinks it’s racist to be asked where they’re from, there’s one who DOESN’T think that way, but feels no need to speak out about it? I don’t know about you, but I have no instinct to go around proclaiming to the world how not-offended I am when people inquire about my Ethiopian heritage. The fact is, I went to a school in Providence which was majority pock (lots of Hispanics and a few blacks like me) and the only people who complained about “racism” were white. Being easily offended is NOT the norm for pocks, some of us are just more sensitive than others, because we’re people. But nobody should have to tolerate unreasonable behavior from anyone, regardless of skin color. We have a place for people whose experience of reality is irreconcilably different from that of the rest of society; it’s called a mental hospital.
Lesson seven: Privilege and intersectionality. I know you’re probably used to thinking of privilege as something that’s earned. In activist spaces it refers to the advantages that society builds in. John Scalzi’s “lowest difficulty setting” is a great intro to privilege. Read it, and read the followups. And then keep reading Scalzi if you’re not. He’s pretty open about what it takes for him as a straight white male to keep learning and growing. Jim Hines is another good read.
Oh boy, Scalzi! I’ll talk about him later, but it’s nice to see that the intersectional feminist community is still capable of seeing value in white men, if only as groveling footstools.
Lesson eight: Yes you can be racist if you have a black friend. This should be kind of a no brainer. No member of a marginalized community should be expected to speak for the whole of the community. Clarence Thomas is kind of a giant asshole. Most of us have been in the room where we’re the only woman and we’ve known that if we fuck up no other woman is going to get a chance to do that. Because if a dude fucks up, it’s just him, but we’re on trial for all of femininity. It’s kind of an honor? But it’s also shitty. So yeah, maybe your One Black Friend doesn’t mind if you drop an n-bomb. Or maybe they actually do mind, and they’re not comfortable telling you about it because of power dynamics or just being really tired today and not wanting to get in one more fight with one more cracker about why it’s not ok to sing along to all the words in Country Grammar. So don’t drag your One Black Friend into a conversation about general trends in the community they’re a part of as if that was some kind of shield against being challenged.
More delightful feminist language can be found here, but that’s far from the most interesting part of this paragraph. Apparently, black people think of their white friends as “crackers”. Huh, that’s interesting. If that’s the case, then do all my white friends think of me as “that nigger”? This is tremendously insulting to black people, as it implies that we’re deeply and irrevocably racist towards whites. No matter how strong the bond of mutual respect between me and my light-skinned brother, according to intersectional feminism I will still distrust him enough based on the color of his skin to throw him in with racist “crackers”. Intersectional feminists want to push the idea that pocks are inherently paranoid towards whites, in order to guilt whites into supporting their cause. Rational whites who accept this conclusion will inevitably become racist, because they cannot distinguish themselves and earn the trust of pocks through exemplary conduct, but only by sidelining their own interests and accepting the status of oppressor forced upon them by intersectional theory. Luckily, rational whites will never accept this conclusion because it’s simply untrue, as any rational pock will tell you. While racial mistrust is inherent to the human condition, only the weak allow it to consume them.
Lesson nine: listening and sitting with discomfort. If you’re on Twitter or Facebook, find some people to follow who are outspoken and who don’t look like you. Ijeoma Oluo, Kat Tanaka Okopnik and Saadia Muzaffar are a good starting place. Chescaleigh Ramsey. Here’s a tip, though – don’t say anything for the first couple weeks. Watch other people interacting and learn from their mistakes. These women are giving the world a ton of emotional labor for free; the least you can do is benefit from it. But it’s not going to be comfortable. You’re going to have the urge to jump in and contradict or protect or explain. Don’t do it. Just sit there uncomfortably and ask yourself “what does it mean if she’s right, and what should I re-examine in my assumptions?”
Don’t provide your own unsullied perspective, wait until you’ve been properly indoctrinated to take down some other poor sucker who wasn’t as opportunistic as you. Because intersectional feminists don’t want normal people in their spaces. Also, what the heck is “emotional labor”? Since when was BEING EMOTIONAL considered a form of LABOR?
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No need to take the Lord’s name in vain there, but more pertinently, are you scared of your own minions? “Give us money, but don’t ask to be friends with us”. Note the word “men”. Here, the feminist High Command all but admits that they think male feminists are creepy. More on this later.
Lesson ten: nobody owes you courtesy. It would be fan-freakin-tastic if everyone was nice to each other all the time and thought about each other’s feelings first. But when you have done a thing which causes someone else an injury, they don’t owe it to you to tell you nicely. Value content over tone. And remember: if it’s not about you, don’t make it about you.
More evidence that intersectional feminists do not understand the basics of human interaction. Tone is as important as content to successful, purposeful communication. Making excuses for rude behavior, even by people who are ostensibly right, puts YOUR OWN SIDE at a disadvantage because nobody wants to understand, defend, or be associated with a jerk. By telling potential recruits to “value content over tone”, you’re essentially saying “we’re mean people, but just deal with it because we’re right”. This is only an effective pitch to people who desire abuse.
Feminists love to talk about entitlement, which is always entertaining. They say that men aren’t entitled to women’s bodies, which is reasonable. They say we aren’t entitled to their time, which is also true. They say we aren’t entitled to their courtesy, which is another non-starter given their professed position of weakness but technically true. Then they proceed to expect us to hear them out and put up with being called misogynists and rapists, jump through all kinds of verbal hoops and expend emotional work (ah, feminists and their emotions) just to be a part of their movement which exists for their benefit. If that isn’t entitlement, then I have readily-identifiable weaknesses!
So if intersectional feminism is so bad at recruiting, then why are there so many intersectional feminists? Well, in all honesty, that’s something I’m still trying to figure out. I know it has something to do with being unopposed by conservatives for so long, something to do with government sanction, and a lot to do with a large base of compliant but unconvinced moderates buoying them up. But I have yet to fully document the forces that draw “normal” youth, who should find feminist spaces unwelcoming at best, into the fold in such numbers as can be found in today’s internet culture.
But I have the beginnings of a theory. I’m convinced that today’s youth have been damaged in a way that causes them to turn to SocJus for support.
Yes, I very much admit to “confirmation bias” with that statement. At this point, the cultural forces behind SocJus are beyond my forgiveness. I am determined to destroy these forces, because they tried to destroy me. As stated before, Not All Intersectional Feminists applies. Many who believe in SocJus are decent people who just haven’t had the time to truly examine the roots of what they believe and the people who tell them to believe it. Not everyone sees the effects that SocJus has on them personally, and most resist it to some degree even while they claim to embrace it wholeheartedly.
I tried to embrace it wholeheartedly, and it led to me trying to be bisexual in order to treat men and women equally.
I hold nobody responsible for this but myself, not even the feminist High Command. But I’m still gonna kick their butts out of the mainstream for championing the ideology that led to THIS abomination:
Eww. Good thing I killed that guy with this sword:
And then proceeded to drink his blood as such:
As you can see, it’s been a great joy so far. All challengers are good challengers. Until next time!